Possible MLC WAH, and need guidance

[LoisB]

Ats,

Here's the slippery slope...BE ANGRY...Angry is good...it promotes healing and gives you energy to move forward.

HOWEVER, you can't bludgeon HIM with the anger. And, be careful when you talk to him right now because it will slip out.

If there's one thing I regret in all this...it's my acting on impulse sooo often when concerning my H.

You just received some shattering, shocking news...allow it to sink in. Until YOU know what's right for you...no more sex.

Get quiet within yourself and get in touch with what YOU want.

I know it's hard, but think of him as a teenager right now. When a teen does something rebellious and acts out...they walk around with that burden, sneakily, in order to avoid punishment. My D20 wore a bobby sock for three weeks in 90 degree weather--EVERYWHERE--to the bathroom--in order to keep me from discovering the lengthy tattoo on her foot.

Let him stew in his own juices right now. The minute you confront, it changes the dynamic. An adult would give you a heads up on going to the lawyer...his behavior validates that he isn't an adult right now...and using the joint checking!

Your confronting him right now will take some pressure off his already heavy shoulders.

Part of him may be counting on you Reacting to his behavior and, then, he doesn't have to face up to his actions...because YOU will do it for him.

Think this one through...whatever you do. I know how hard it is...been to that party...but, you can do this.

Take that anger and use it to make an appointment with some lawyers. You don't need to commit to anything. Just make one appointment for today.

You can do this.