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Thanks, Lisa. I agree that positive but prepared is the way to go. Part of this journey for me is really starting to see us both as individuals (sounds stupid, but I think that was lacking before….I was too focussed on the R…the big 3-5, babies and all). I've come some length to understanding that he may (of his own accord) come to the conclusion that our M isn't what he wants. I actually think I accept this now. But gee, I'd really like the opportunity to try this M thing again with this new insight. Of course it may all fall apart when I am sitting across the table from him next week if he tells me some bad news!