No you don't. You don't want to change. If you did you would have done what people have suggested to you. Are you willing to do EXACTLY what you are told? All I heard was excuses.
- I am willing to do exactly as told, sometimes i use my own mind and tend to listen to my own logic which at this state is currently altered.. i guess thats where im going wrong. I will listen exactly as told.
I don't think being carefree and laid back is the problem. That's what got you here in the first place.
- yeah your right, but i was mostly referring to her being able to do things without me saying anything.
You have to learn to understand another person's POV. That's different from acceptance. I have a feeling that you never read DB/DR. Be honest. You skimmed it didn't you? You don't want to do the work.
- i see what you mean, they are always right in their own sense and may have certain feelings that contradict your understanding, its about being able to extract those feelings from her and re-iterating it back to her in an understanding way.
Doesn't seem like it. You think she's a slut right now and that she owes you.
- i actually do, why do i feel like this? And how did you get this so accurate?
Again, what do you plan to do to address your jealously issues. You are the one with the problem of your W having a male friend that is more mature than you. She doesn't "owe" you any apology.
- to be fair shes stopped talking to him but i have kept mentioning it.. how hurt i was.. i guess nothing did happen but in my mind so many different things kept playing back. Trying to overcome this is not easy.
What steps are you going to do to make these sweeping changes that you say you want to make?
