MLC - you had a number of questions that I didn't answer.
Yes, I could have taken an apartment myself, but expected the future to be like the past (commute from here, an hour away from d16 school, which is what she did last year). The changed living situation broadsided me.
Luke, no offense my friend, but ^^^ "the changed living situation broadsided" you? How could that be?
Your w has told you many times she wants a divorce. She told you she planned on divorcing you after d was older.
She said she wants to sell the house AND divorce you when d reaches this age.
And now she is doing all of that. I mean, we're talking a Decade of warnings.
And your r with your d is SLOWLY improving, but I'm mystified as to why you were "Blindsided" by any of this. I mean, you must have really been in major denial.
Got it on the MIL front - thanks. My MIL is actually kinder and closer to me than my W!
Going to the West Coast for 2 months sounds good for the moment. I have subscribed to an apartment finding service already, which actively sends you notifications of new places that match your criteria.
No, I don't think she sees my staying in the house as better than her small place. She gets to be away from me, whom she can't stand being with (to quote). Yes, fear drove me, wanting to hang on to the familiar, the comforting, the known. I guess I need to learn to let go.
Thx - L
You have to learn to let go. There is no debating that. It's a must do.
I call it "adapting to reality". Regardless, it's a learned skill and I have no doubt you will learn it. And you will at least partly, ENJOY it if you let yourself.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
