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Decided to stay home and asked W to go out to a movie.. DB coach told her she needs to laugh more so we went to see Tammy.. It sucked.. We went shopping and picked up food for kids on way back and ended date. W now on phone with her dad as it is his birthday. Stay tuned


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Recommend that she read the project happily ever after information.


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She just finished it today. I read it before giving her the recommendation so we will see how it goes? Thanks for the advice.


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I've heard about this Happiness Project book. Is it good for anyone really? Would you recommend it for someone just feeling rather ho-hum?


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No I would only recommend it to a WAS who is seriously contemplating getting back together but can't figure out how to get the "spark" back.

From Jw1934's response I'm assuming he wasn't impressed, so I don't think it's going to help his situation.


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I was impressed... We had a great conversation about book and cuddled on sofa, THEN she invited me back in to my bedroom where she fell asleep in my arms.. I feel terrific. Thanks mrbond . Small steps but all in right direction.

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I read the book prior to her, and we talked about how to get the spark back, how to turn me (the frog) back into a prince. It is difficult to balance the DB ideas with showing care and love to her, but it is working slowly. I gave her the deal that at any time she needs space or time alone, I will go to the other bedroom to sleep so she can relax and be with herself to think. No pressure from me.. I also have not told her "I love you" in over 3 weeks of the separation and will wait for her to say it first I think. That way I am not putting any undo pressure on her. I also don't ask where she was, or text her or phone her. Leaving her have the space and time to reconcile on her own time schedule. Hard to do.. But really worth it.


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Night two in my bed with the W. We talked a bit and cuddled, not putting any pressure on her or asking her to move faster. Just feels good to be close to her and feel her respond to my arms around her. I layed in bed both nights for hours just feeling good and thanking God.


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Congrats! Sounds like things are going great for you!

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doing pretty good.. I am just taking it one day at a time and getting as much reading and knowledge I can to make me a better husband.


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