I see lots of similarities in our stories. My H told he was not happy for 2-3 years pre BD. And I think when he dropped the B, he had an EA just starting or at least thinking about it. With my super intuition and detective abilities, I think I pointed right at her, not even knowing what was going on. The suspected phone number on his record with lots of texts and some calls. He met her in the state where he works. Looking back, I see lots of evidence. But he told me that they were just good friends (yeah, after just about 1.5 months of knowing each other.) He also blamed me for another jealousy outburst when I confronted him. I know that she is not in the picture anymore. So, what happened with “good friends”?
It’s been 2 years after the BD, but I still cannot make sense of it.
Originally Posted By: LiveNow
Well, geez, what HAVEN'T I done? Seriously - yoga, meditation, support group (6 new friends, all divorced now), work conference, 2 trips out west, reestablished friendships and family ties, took up a new sport, started running again, counseling weekly, and I have read at least one entire grocery bag of books trying to learn more about myself and how I contributed to this mess. It's a daily struggle, still, and frankly, I'm kind of tired. Some days are perfectly fine, but some, like today, I miss having my best friend to do stuff with. But like I said, sometimes I just don't feel like putting forth the effort. I'm An introvert, so it's even tougher when you don't always want to hang out in groups.
I’ve done about the same amount of activities. I can add the poll dancing to the mix, LOL. And I don’t even remember how many books I read. I’m also an introvert, even though I feel fairly relaxed in most crowds. I just have hard time initiating any activities. But I try to accept all invitations from friends and family.
I’m glad you enjoyed your last weekend.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
