I have a slight cold too. I think I got it from D, now she is with H, not that I'm wishing it on him or anything
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
My h caught the flue from me went to the dr and returned saying
I caught a secondary infection on top of the cold because we went to x city, you could ave killed me and I almost died! Really when I had it you called me super ar$e lazy!
It just makes me laugh the crazee.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
I think the AD's are taking effect. I believe my mood is becoming more stable. However, I'm not so sure how I feel about the side effects. I'm tired and have had some sleep issues with waking up in the middle of the night and then not getting back to sleep for hours. I'm also not so sure how I feel about the sexual side effects, not that it matters right now but eventually if H and I were to work towards reconciling again it seems it could be a big issue. Especially since infrequent sex was a major complaint for him. I'll give it a few more weeks and talk to my doc. At least my #1 goal to get my emotions under control maybe on it's way to being achieved.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Be mindful, on ads, I found to. Point they were good, but I felt stuck and spaced out.
Then I missed a few and went, I'm going off. I made huge improvements, I thought I could take the odd one with sleeping issues, nup I was tired and spacey.
Could hardly function that next day!
I found I could sleep till about 4 then I was awake. For at least 2 hours, then I would be out by 6 am unable to feel like I could get out of bed.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I'm also not so sure how I feel about the sexual side effects, not that it matters right now but eventually if H and I were to work towards reconciling again it seems it could be a big issue. Especially since infrequent sex was a major complaint for him. I'll give it a few more weeks and talk to my doc. At least my #1 goal to get my emotions under control maybe on it's way to being achieved.
I had the same concerns for myself. But then I thought about how depression is a libido-killer, too. I feel like having my emotions under control will at least allow me to be able to deal with whatever other side effects there are.
(Btw, I had some sleep issues at the beginning, too. Those have mostly gone away. And strangely enough, even though I am getting less sleep than before, I have more energy and still have more control over emotions. So, for me, those side effects don't trump the overwhelmingly positive effects of AD.)
Besides, when the time is right, you could try a 30-day challenge and see if actually having sex changes your mood towards it. You may find you really don't want to do it or you may find it's just because you aren't stimulated right now.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
So now that perhaps my moods are starting to get under control (I'll definitely give it a few more weeks to make sure), I'm wondering what my next step is.
I mean I feel like H and I could hang out in this limbo for quite a long time. I'm feeling relatively ok with that right now (see? ADs really are working) but wondering if there is something I eventually *should* do to maximize chances for R? Right now I'm just giving him space and making sure any interactions we have are pleasant. That's about it. Do I basically stay this course for as long as I can stand it?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
I'm as hopeful for R as you are, but on my 800 mile road trip Friday I realized I'd spent almost two hours fantasizing about it. That's ridiculous. It's like being 15 again. The point of being 42 should be that you've learned a thing or two since 15.
I know you're a full-time working single mom at the moment, but what GAL activities are you doing to improve your passion for life in general? You shouldn't be waiting around for your H. That would be wasting this gift of time.
Sending this lovingly...
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
