mlc rut

[pbetra]

Hey Pbetra

Throw in a tilt-a-whirl and then you have a pretty accurate description of living with a mlcer. The only way to avoid the nausea and dizziness is to get off the ride. Step off. Rip up your tickets. Let him ride alone.

Please do not let his behavior stop you from going out and having fun more often. My h is the same. He goes and has his life but doesn't want me to have mine.

Thx juliegayle,

How are you? Funny, I was thinking of going out SOON. I need to get away. The coldness, ignoring, disrespect ...I had come to cope with on some level. The language tends to hurt me at the core. It's demeaning, some of the expressions degrading. I realized why though - my father did the same. He was also dominant. It's funny, they, H & 'dad' are NOT 'obviously' alike, but on some levels they are 'subtlely so'! That aspect is part of my own ongoing journey

I intend to go out - I had a good time! Why stay here anyway? For what? A guarantee of enduring love? Yeah right!
To feel my heart race at an uncomfortable rate, followed by tears due to disguisting profanities during these 'interludes'? Pretty much ...
Like I said, I was thinking about where next? Then, I came to the board & 'voila', there you were!

re: you - He goes and has his life but doesn't want me to have mine.
Strange. I was also reading here that some MLCers also seem to want LBS to suffer because they are so miserable. It's all related I suppose ... "(MLC) misery loves company"

Hope you are also doing well & getting through with your own goals, take care juliegayle. p