Thank you for sharing your experience, CaliGuy. I think I'm the one who's more likely to take things emotionally, but I will try to keep my emotions in check when we talk again. We tend to have better results when we go out for coffee, so I'm going to suggest that for this conversation.
Just a vent: I realized today that he is still using the joint account for his incidental expenses. Why would he continue to use that account knowing that his paycheck for August was going somewhere else, and the only money in the joint account is from MY paychecks? Argh!
