Think about what you hope to accomplish with a meeting:
- Can you keep your expectations low? (He might, after all, want to meet so he can pressure you into an un-advantageous divorce settlement).
- Can you meet without getting upset? (If so, better to postpone meeting until you feel stronger)
- Do you want to show him what he's missing? (Always nice to show up looking super-hot with a new haircut or such - good for the ego)
- Do you just want to see if he's ok? (he may not reveal much to you, but be prepared for him to look like crap)
- Do you want to discuss your financial divorce concerns with him? (If so, be prepared and stay on topic)
I found it was helpful to write down a few important sayings on an index card, tuck it in my pocket, and retire to the ladies room to read it when things got overwhelming.
