Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

[25yearsmlc]

25 - In the book (DR), it says to go right to LRT if the WAW is in an affair and refuses to end it.

Hmmm, I don't recall it that way. Can you cite me where you found that? What page, exactly?

I just re-read DR, (pp 177-182 on LRT), and I could not find that "instruction". If it is in those pages, it's well hidden or not clear to ME.

Here is what I found that struck me as relevant to your situation:

"if you are absolutely convinced that you have tried the other methods and have given them enough time to work and they have all failed, then you may need to try LRT..."

On p. 177 (DR) it says:

"The LRT is really no different than the 180' technique. The reason it is listed separately is b/c of its importance.

When there are marital difficulties and a person fails to do a 180', the problems get worse. However when a marriage teeters on divorce and a person fails to use the last-resort technique, divorce is almost inevitable....'

AND

"...although these acts of desperation are understandable, they unfortunately have the paradoxical effect of increasing the chances of divorce..."

I'd be happy to explore this further but I didn't find what you found in the book. So if you can refer me to where you found it, maybe i can explore that with you.