I think a lot of times this is a process. We talk about what's happening at home and how I'm handling it. We've talked about the fact that I have intimacy issues and trust issues ANYWAY (this is funny to me...only I would deal with these issues in the middle of my H having an affair. MLP. Doing things the hard way. Yaaaaaayyyyyyy.). We talk about how I can help the kids through this process, what I'm doing to hold it together for myself, what parts of me need to change to be a more whole, less broken version of me. We talk about trust, honesty, boundaries and how to set these things. We talk about addictive behaviors and how to not be an enabler. We talk about natural consequences.
She also reminds me a lot that I didn't cause this. That's important feedback for me, because I think I shoulder the blame for things a lot, whether I deserve to do so or not.
