That conversation has been really tough for me. At the moment I am putting a good deal into the joint account for her to draw from and just giving myself enough to get by on. That number will dramatically drop if not be eliminated if we do D ... this was brought up in a free mediation session last week and was a big setback, not that I would leave her high and dry, but her standard of living will decrease significantly ( I seen this as a good way for her to rethink the entire thing ... without me saying/doing anything bad .... however she was still very upset with me.)
In your case, its going to be a difficult subject .... he is in a fog and may have this grand fantasy in his head and the reality may very well be something much different. All I can suggest is treat it as a formal buisness meeting and just state facts, if he starts becoming emotional and upset remove yourself and do not escalate it, just let him know you can discuss it further and a better time ... its a tough pill to swallow, let him know you know that. JMHO
