New here and not sure what to do

[Hoju]

Update:

We spoke for several hours yesterday. While she is still adament that this is what she wants, she continues to use word like "if we go through with this" and "i wish someone could tell me what the future held". She also hasn't taken any of the steps to begin the separation process, which seems strange when she says things like "i've made up my mind" and "i don't want to get your hopes up". We parted with a long warm caring hug and she invited me to come to vball tonight because she was concerned that the team might get suspicious if i missed 2 weeks in a row.

She went to see a therapist and was basically told that she had to be honest with herself and if she really wanted a divorce then her reasons were justified. This is the same response she has gotten from her parents when she approched them.

I'm so confused right now, is she just playing with my emotions? Is she just looking for my validation that she is making the right decision? Everyone else seems to be giving her validation to end it. She's a very needed person is pulling away really the correct course of action to mend this? The only issue we've ever had is that i'm not there emotionally for her.