The one thing I do know is he can't file as long as we are in a sexual relationship. We have to be at least 60 days... I knew there was a reason I was having sex with him all of a sudden. I know I'm mind reading but could he be feeling guilty?
We hadn't had sex for 3 months and 7/28 we started again...is he sabotaging what he is trying to do?
Not likely using you per se. More likely conflicted. It's not like he doesn't know the separation of 60 days is required.
There is a lot of conflicting emotions that go on in a MLCrs head and at the end of a relationship. You're just catching the flak of it. There's a book called Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life that may be worth the few minutes it takes to read.
It really comes down to what you want. I do highly recommend that you retain a lawyer and watch the financial assets though. If you can squirrel some away, that may be helpful to make sure it's not gone. You'll have to disclose it but at least it'll be there.
When you look for a lawyer, what are your goals? Many of them will try to play your emotions. The easiest emotion to play is anger, so many will incense you and get you riled up, then make suggestions. When you look for one, look for one that is on your side and fits your values. There are many to choose from and you can interview as many as needed. Don't hesitate to tell them no and walk to another until you find one that fits.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
