Are there really that many broken people in the world who are so desperate that they will debase themselves for someone who is already married a lot of the time, who can't think of anyone but themself and have so much baggage?
Yes.
One of the things about a MLCr - they can be incredibly charming and manipulative to get what THEY want. Selfishness is a big part and they will stop at nothing to get what THEY want.
And yes, there are that many broken people that will gladly get into a relationship with a MLCr or a narcissistic person. Think about how somebody would get involved with a married person in the first place. There's already something wrong with them. Add to that the stress and pressure to live up to the former spouse (over time; at first they hear the lies and WANT to believe them). Add more stress to remain that person that "saves" them from the "evil" former spouse. Add to that the part where the former spouse is rarely (in these cases) the "evil" person they make them out to be. Add to that the stress of kids and, ick, responsibility. Add to that the stress for the MLCr to keep the illusion of what they said is the truth.
It's a tough row to hoe. But likely intoxicating for the unsuspecting or gullible person that is so broken they want to believe that and get mixed up in it.
One of the many advantages of the LBS is we know better after the initial shock wears off.
Personally, I wouldn't trade places with either the MLCr or the person who is aiding and abetting the fantasy world. That can be a long way to fall and the MLCr will take anybody and everybody near them with them when they do.
What you saw and see is just the tip of the iceberg in most cases. There's more.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
