DBing after WAW then reactive EA by me...NO QUIT!

[25yearsmlc]

I didn't really have a clue. I still don't know WHAT she wants. I do know now that I need to go big. I'm looking into jewelry. Also kicking around the idea of trading in the mini-van and getting a new Honda Pilot...which is what she really wants car-wise. And whatever I decide, I may need to go in for some big flowers.

Ever think about planting some? They last longer and take work on your end, but I don't know your w. Speaking for myself, if my h planted a row of flowers that are in bloom now or will be soon, it would hit me in a good way.

I have to do something, it needs to be big. She's looking for the HUGE I'm sorry, I failed, I get it, I want to save this gesture. I'm going further into debt today.

What does "save this gesture" mean?
Explain please.

And if she'd really like a car that you need or will need relatively soon, then you were going to go into some debt for it anyhow, you could make it now.

But then I wonder...maybe you should not pretend the car you were going to buy anyhow, is for her birthday. Is that like buying the "family" a repaired fireplace and telling her it was a personal gift "for her".

I do recall my bil laying carpet down for my sister (she really wanted new carpet in their bedroom or living room) and him not telling her, but on Christmas morning, she unwrapped a box which had a piece of the ne carpet in it.

She figured out that he had laid the carpet down himself, in both their living room and bedroom. I was very impressed. My sisters and I looked at OUR husbands and said things like "THAT is a nice gift..hint hint....'"

HOWEVER, I wonder if that car gift, sounds more like a family expense that was coming down the road anyhow. Hmm, let's See what other women around here are thinking.

Ideas? Fellow women, (and guys who KNOW women), thoughts??