afraid I have waited too long #3

[Wet]

Hi, you asked if the WAW apologizes, how would you know if they 'understood' what they did. I am no expert, but I think if they apologised and you ask them "what for?", and let them talk you will have a sense if they understand how they hurt you and others.

But if the reply with something like "you know, for everything", I think that you will see they really don't understand the damage that they have done to you and others by their actions.

I hope this helps. And we can always hope this comes one day in our lives, and I don't think it hurts to be prepared. Best wishes.

[nit84]

Thanks Wet,

You're right and the more I think about it, the WAW wouldn't be able to just say "I'm sorry" and not follow it up with why they are sorry, but to truly understand how they hurt you might not be clear till they went to IC to work on themselves or MC to work on the M.

I sure that is why all the vets caution folks not get too excited till everything MrBond mentioned is agreed upon and understood that there is still a lot of work to be done.

Having that feeling of renewed hope that R is possible must be the best feeling especially for the LBS because in most cases they have already been working on themselves so more work to them would be welcomed if it led to R.

[nit84]

I hate to be needy but I would like to start another thread #4 and bring the first 3 forward to make it easier for people but I am a computer dummy can someone explain to me how to do it? Thanks

[nit84]

It seems as though the last couple days W has been asking small things either to get me to answer or to show me that she is going out and wants to make sure I know it.

Either way I just answer, no emotion, just answer and go back to what I was doing.