She still has a lot of feelings, probably conflicted, for you.
Why does she say, do the best I can to help you? Do you require a lot of help?
Because throughout our relationship (and particularly in the first few weeks after the bomb was dropped), I've been a wreck and have been emotionally needy and clingy towards her. Over the last week or so, I've done a complete 180 on that -- one time to a point where she was getting upset that I wasn't admitting that I was upset (because she felt I was -- "saw it in your face")
Originally Posted By: labug
She wishes, even now, that you would "get it." We all want to be understood, to be heard and she's telling you that straight out. What is it you aren't getting?
I would guess you know, you just don't see it the same way she does or, it's not as important to you as it is to her.
25 usually does a good job of outlining those things. Did anything ring bells for you?
I think I do get it, but I don't know how to express that to her. That e-mail I shared earlier was the best way I could express it through words. I really am very remorseful about how I played a role in breaking her down emotionally and hurting her repeatedly. I don't know how to make her understand that this is truly the way I feel, and not just empty words.
One thing I'm trying to do is more communication through actions instead of words -- because she's heard the words before. I want to do nice things for her because I really love her. This whole experience has made me realize how much I do love her. At the same time, I know I need to not too much (go overboard) because it's going to simply look like "tactics" to her. And I don't want to come off that way.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
