First post, confused

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My W says she has tried many times to end it with OM but keeps going back. She is not in the position to end it cold turkey at this point (she works with him).

I've noticed that W is more attentive to me when things are going well for them (strange and hurtful).

I feel that if the affair is really over, she would announce it to me as a victory.
But that probably would not be how she would feel - only how I would feel.