Breaking up with OM is just part of the hard work for her. She will have to go through the "withdrawal". That's when the affair partners backslide and contact each other. With every contact, it's like starting back at the beginning line of withdrawals.
I tend to be suspicious of a WAW in an A saying she's breaking up with her affair partner when she's been with him throughout the week.....after telling you she would end things with him. There's only one way to end an A.
Just be careful. Give this a lot of time to prove itself out. When she's really over the OM, I think you'll know it. But even if they "broke up", it doesn't mean she's over him.
So, just continue to be the best for you. Be who you want to be, and don't focus on wanting her to see your 180's. It's kind of funny how the word seems to get around about how you've changed. It's actually good that she hears about it, rather than you trying to show her in a short time. She will more likely believe the changes are sincere if others are seeing and talking about them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
