MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART III

[ItHurts]

Hi Sandi! Thanks for the post! No, I think she snapped out of it over the course of a couple weeks about a month ago...she just never told me. Remember when she was contacting me A LOT all of a sudden back around mid June through early July? I think that's when she was starting to come out of it. All the pop in visits that started happening...all the "excuses" to come spend time with me, etc. I think it's only now that she is finally fully out of the fog. I don't think it was something that happened in 4 days, I think the only thing that's happened in 4 days was her actually finally admitting it to me. That's what took her that time. The actual emerging from the fog I believe has been slowly happening the past few weeks...as Thornton mentioned many times...he seems to have noticed it too. I just didn't think it was possible that she would ever return so I didn't really agree with him. Apparently she's been talking to people, she even contacted my cousin which I was unaware of about three weeks ago and told him she thinks she made a horrible mistake and that she regrets it. She didn't want to tell me though because she said she was afraid she'd mess with my head and that she thought I had moved on so fast that I would only reject her. So no, I don't think she did snap out of it in only 4 days, in retrospect and thinking back to her behavior in recent weeks, I guess I should've noticed that she was more like the wife I remember and less like the WAW from May.

Believe me, my eggs aren't in one basket...she's already hurt more than anything has in my life and she can never hurt me like that again...it doesn't get any worse than that.
But I spent nearly 20 years with this girl and I know her. She is genuine in all she is saying to me right now. I have no doubts that this isn't some kind of game. When she's talking about actually reversing the divorce she was so "sure" she wanted...I knew then that she meant business. She has no reason to even suggest that if she wasn't sure. The divorce is done and she could just leave things as they are, the fact that she wants to do that speaks volumes to me. It's the "show me" action that I was looking for in order for me to believe what she says. Had she not thought about that, I would be treading a bit more easily. Don't worry, I'm watching out for myself too, but I know her. Actions speak louder than words and I purposely didn't even bring up reversing the divorce...instead she asked me if we should considering she regrets is so much.