"The third time's lucky. "

[TL72*]

thanks guys - I haven't been on the computer too much but all is ok. I haven't heard from him since then. Most of my paranoia has subsided but I do find myself taking 2nd glances when I see a truck like his. I think he's probably vented and hopefully that was enough to settle him down. My current concern is that I did not receive the letter from the bank showing that the house was paid off. I was told it would be sent within 10 days with an escrow refund check. My thought is that they sent it, it's in both our names most likely since the original mortgage was in both our names that would make sense - then USPS probably forwarded it to him since his name was first on the mortgage. If he got it he most likely deposited it without me signing it. I know I know I'm making things up in my head that I don't know to be true. My other thoughts on this is that if it shuts him up he can have the refund. It's about 1500 so it's not worth fighting over although I really feel the right thing to do is to split it 50/50. I have a call into the bank to see if they did actually get it out and to see if it was processed yet. Part of me thinks it's the principle of the thing - if he forged my name on the check or deposited it without letting me know he got it after that huge tantrum a week or so ago. The angry part of me says he doesn't deserve anything, I paid that money into the escrow account and he shouldn't have treated me that way, but the forgiving side of me says just let him have the whole thing and hope he leaves me alone going forward. Mostly right now I just want to know if that is what happened to it or if they just hadn't gotten it out yet for whatever reason. I'll let this go soon enough, just overthinking it as usual. What truly matters to me is leaving the past in the past and creating this sanctuary for myself and moving forward. I hope after a year or so (they say it takes a month for every year you were married to recover fully) that I am able to go through whole days without thinking of it. Inner peace - I know it's out there and I feel I'm so close to grabbing it