I'm sorry Tboned that you are hurting right now. Feel the grief and allow time for it, YOU are growing and changing whether you feel that way or not. This is about you now, your journey, he's on his own. I'm glad your therapist was blunt with you on that, sort of validates you - it's not you, it's him. Keep doing your GAL activities and try to live in the present. Let the past go and take some time to work through the grief each day. It does slowly get easier. Each time you feel like you are backsliding, it gets easier to get up and back on the horse so to speak. You will find your grief appearing still but in shorter bouts. faster recovery times, eventually you'll feel whole again. Forgiveness - of yourself and him - is important. Take care of yourself, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and there are great things in store for you. Thinking of you
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs