Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

[mindsin]

"Just STFU" -- I should have that printed at my desk. I do talk too much sometimes -- especially via e-mail. I just have to remember what I learned in DR. Over the past week or so, I've been basically doing LRT.

She had a visit with a cousin and a close friend on back-to-back days. I asked her NOTHING about her visit or her conversation. In fact, it was she who texted me throughout both trips, letting me know her whereabouts at any given time (arrival, going for dinner, coming home, etc.). It was also she who opened up conversations regarding both trips (on the next day after each trip). I was simply cordial, but I did not show any real interest (e.g. I didn't ask ANY questions).

Monday morning, she sent me an e-mail, letting me know that she'll be spending the night Monday, Wednesday, and Friday of this week. I didn't respond to that e-mail.

Monday afternoon, she sent me a text message saying that she just got a raise from her job. I simply texted back "congrats". Deep inside, I think she knows how I feel about the circumstances surrounding that raise (after all, the OM is her manager).

Monday evening, I asked if she planned to eat dinner at home. I ended up making dinner for the two of us. I didn't jump for joy at her raise and didn't say much about it. I simply showed through my actions that I am proud of her and this was my way of "celebrating" (I don't normally make her dinner). Besides, making dinner for the two of us (when I arrive home first) is simply common courtesy, as someone on this board made me realize.

Monday night, she was anxious to leave the house to spend the night with the OM. She promised to put the kids to bed before she goes. Around 10:00PM, she comes into my room with our daughter and says, "here, she wants to sleep with dad". My wife couldn't get out of the house fast enough. I didn't make a stink about it. I said nothing. The old me would probably have sent a criticizing e-mail or text about her priorities as a mother and her parenting skills. But I didn't go there.

This morning, she sends me a text asking how the kids were. I simply said "fine".