Ok. Failed again. Went small today w/ gifts and she wanted a fuss. I was trying to not do the "try to make up for bday all at once" thing. I should have. She wanted cake and presents. So, tomorrow, cake and presents. A few, and good ones. Help!
if you kno\ew WHAT she wanted then why didn't you tell US that? I assumed you had no clues.
If you have clues, follow them. If you knew she wanted some fuss, (which I would have suspected) but thought you simply had a reason for giving up, then make a fuss...
but now I wonder if you see that -- you stop BEFORE you fail and then you seem to ensure that you do fail. What's up with that?
Do you know what I'm saying?
You blew the birthday for reasons NOT clear to me
(b/c you did not follow the advice I gave or the advice of anyone in favor of a gift, ) and then you still thought after doing basically nothing for her, from you, that doing little things now, would make up for it?
WHY?
Didn't you tell us you could not make up for it "now" with a real gift, but now it seems you could have.
Better late than never is real. Why does it seem you are deliberately sabotaging yourself??
Do you get what I'm saying? You seem to think "Oh I blew it, too late now to do a great thing, better lower my/her expectations and do something half ass which MAYBE I can manage...OOOPS! She wanted me to do an adult thing, so NOW what??
and then you act surprised or set up, but it's you who keeps setting the bar so low for yourself.
What do you think about all this?
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