Ok, time for a little catch up. Bigmac & MrBond, I've decided that since gifts are her love language and I've ALWAYS been terrible at them, I need to show her that I can speak her love language. To do this, I have to do gifts.
Bob, I don't think she wants to be on a date with me yet.

The problem right now is I'm flailing. I can't connect with a gift. I'm like 0 for 9 years.

Me trying to speak her love language is like trying to ask where the bathroom in Spanish, but actually telling the person they have bad breath.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.