I think I did something really stupid but I didn't realize it was stupid until just now.
I decided to file for a separation. I think it is the best thing while we are living apart. It protects us legally.
I filed on Friday and put the papers in the mail for my wife on Saturday.
I left a message on the home phone today telling her I filed the separation papers on Friday, August 1. I told her to expect the papers in the mail. I also offered to a mow the lawn and do any chores she needed.
After I hung up I realized what day I filed the separation papers and got sick to my stomach.
Here is the back story:
In 2013 when I moved out the first time I served my wife with divorce papers. She refused to sign. After a month I hired an attorney who called my wife. My wife refused to cooperate.
I told my wife I wouldn't file the papers if she would go to marriage counseling. I lied. I filed the papers without her knowledge. When my wife returned from a business trip on August 1 the papers were waiting for her. She was devastated. This is when she called and begged me to come home.
I didn't realize until I hung up the phone today that I had filed for a legal separation on August 1. Exactly one year after she had gotten notice I filed for divorce last time.
I know filing a separation is in our best interest legally. But I know she is going to think I am doing this to punish her for not contacting me in the last two weeks.
