Don't feel to bad about the 5LL. I read and did those last July. My WAW had apparently long checked out and actually had me stop doing them. It was a fools errand.
I get that ... but her LL was more about affirmation and quality time .. however mine is physical touch and affirmation .... things I am now trying to use without chasing ... I thanked her today for setting up S dental appt and I had told her a month ago I would take the day off to take him (180 here) the fact this new job I have alot more freedom to do things like this and attend school activities for my son is a huge and much appreciated 180 for me ... I have always wanted to do these things but couldnt and she resented me for that.
Tonight took my S to buy cleats and guards for his soccer season, took him out to dinner and sent her a pic via text ... as she did for me this weekend. She is going out to dinner (Sales Team) not sure if I buy the with who .. but does not really matter honestly .. I had a eureka moment in the car today asking myself am I more upset over losing her .. or losing her to another guy ... I can not control the OM issue so all I can do is make changes for the better for me regardless of what she does. .... baby steps and keeping a PMA
