WAH - next chapter

[LisaB]

Thanks pilot, I think things have already pretty much fizzled with the original OW. She and I are a lot alike and I think he was trying to swap me for her, a new and improved and much younger version. But I sense that didn't really pan out.

But I know he is actively looking for other girls. Someone he can feel that spark with.

Here is my plan, maybe anyone who wants to chime in can give me their 2 cents?

- do not pursue (no texting, calling first, only respond, take your time)
- do not be rude but do not be overly friendly, end conversations first
- when in contact, seem like a buddy but not overly enthusiastic (light and friendly to keep communication open)
- GAL like mad
- when possible through social media or mutual friends make it seem like I am doing fantastic, without being too obvious and over the top

Why?
- no pursuing because I need to put distance between us so that he can come toward me
- be friendly so that he doesn't feel I am angry and sad, then he won't be afraid to keep in contact if he wants to
- GAL is good for me and also good for seeming confident, busy and independent
- seeming happy and independent is good for making him curious about me, it worked in the past

He says he is 100% done but I do sense confusion and a lot of sadness under that. He craves that exciting in love feeling that just is hard to get from someone you have been with for several years. I don't know if it is possible to get that back between us. He definitely thinks it is impossible.

Any thoughts on my plan in light of his note?

Thanks in advance! Hugs, LisaB