Nothing wrong with standing; I respect it, in fact. It's the PURSUING that is a DB no-no, and I was referring specifically to being this far down the DB (and even divorce) path with her, and still being hyper-concerned with "how I come across to her."
At this stage, you should be WELL into "how am I coming across to other people? Am I becoming a better man and partner?," and if your wife notices it before it's too late, great, but you're not hanging around waiting for her.
THAT sort of thing. You present as someone only about a month removed from BD. That's not a critcism -- just an observation, since I'm new to your thread.
