VERY BAD DAY!!! My W, after the big blow up over a CLOCK, has now submitted a Final Divorce Decree. From what is in it I'm certain she did this right after the fight (the date it was submitted was 2 days after the fight, so she went the very next day!). She is now wanting to sell the house I live in and also keep all the money in her retirement after I cashed mine in over the last 2 years as I wasn't making enough money and felt I needed to help financially. Not only that she wants to change her name back to her maiden name! This is a new one as her mother kept her name the same as her husband! You can tell from the content of the decree that she was all ticked off and wanted to just hurt me as much as possible.
One fight over something that, if she had just spoken to me about it and not freaked out, I probably would have just given her. Now I want it and half of her grandmothers estate sale items back. I'm also ready to fight putting my D into the school that she wants as I really don't think that is what's best but I was trying to be cooperative. I now will have to talk to my D14 and see what she thinks. Will she, if she must make a choice, want to live with me or her mother? Does she want me to look into a school district closer. There is a better school that is closer to me but my W doesn't want her going there as it is far from where she lives now. Too bad.
I am very upset about this as my W is doing this because she is angry because I asked to keep a single item! Something that she says I have a right to have but not a "moral right" to have! She wants to keep D14 for every holiday in even # years (Every one!) and I get odd # years. Funny how this is an even # year unh? She listed a bunch of things that were given to us both by her uncle (paintings), the laptop that she wanted to take in place of the clock, all kinds of stuff that she really shouldn't have asked for.
I called my L and his paralegal said that if it isn't what my W and I agreed to she will notify her lawyer that the final decree will need to be "tweaked". I guess this means that I will have time to review everything, not sure how much but I really need to get ready. I had mistakenly thought that maybe my W wouldn't just get angry and make things harder than they have to be. Now I understand that as is typical with an MLC having person, she will do whatever her EMOTIONS tell her to do at that time.
I know I need to be careful as I don't want to do anything out of malice or because I am angry and right now I think it's hard for me to tell the difference between the two. I just want her to think of someone OTHER than herself, just for at least the legal part of this but I now know that is too much to ask. You know on Friday, before I knew she had done this. She called me to talk about which school D14 should go to and why. Asked for some info that she would need to get her registered, etc. I was so nice about it. I even thanked her for talking to me BEFORE she did anything! Now I know she had already put in the divorce decree that D14 MUST go to that school!! It was all a ruse! I noticed that she seemed really nervous at the start of the convo. and I thought it was because of the big blow up she had the last time I saw or spoke to her! No! it was because she had already decided on her own where my D was going to go to school without bothering to even speak to me about it! My God, I'm angry right now.
