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[LisaB]

Hi asat82, thanks so much for your kind words and I'm sorry that things are not going well with you, but as you say if she is open to attention and affection maybe you can give her some of that while still remaining strong? Good luck!

I just got a response from my H to my "Dobson letter" telling him I let go and accept the situation. His note was very heartfelt, which I did not expect. However, it was not very encouraging.

Basically he admitted that he had been having feelings for other women for some time before our split, and that he feels the end of our relationship was inevitable as he lost his feelings of excitement, desire and that in love spark. He was guilty and sad about these feelings and maybe even in denial, because he had been previously happy with me. But he felt his interest in me dying, and from what he says, now it is completely dead.

He said he is sorry for what happened and hopes someday I understand.

Of course reading his note makes me very sad and hopeless, as he is saying in a calm and loving way that he is 100% done.

Does anyone have advice for me? Should I respond? Is there any hope? What should I do?

All along through the split his complaint has been something along the lines of him losing that exciting spark of being in love with me. Losing that desire to please me, to pursue me. Losing that feeling of being lucky to have me, to respect and admire me. Basically I became the boring wife to him. And although it makes me sad, I can see my role in how that happened.

Any vets or anyone have advice for my situation? I would greatly appreciate it.

Hugs, Lisa