Lisa, just catching up and I see a lot of similarities (I think at least hehe). I just recently went NC for a while after the last time she backed off so did I. Not sure if my timing was great because she got together with a new OM.
Anyway, a week ago I called her and finally stood up for myself and said this was not okay, she needed to end things with OM because it was disrespectful and I won't stand for that. She wants to get together to talk soon, but all signs point to her continuing with divorce on this talk. She said she would break things off with OM, but Im not sure. She seems to be floundering to get attention from anyone also, but if she just opened her heart to me again things would be different.
I'm very tempted to start showing her some positives from me in her love language since this partially worked before, but after taking the strong stand Im not sure how to go about it. I am beginning to accept things may just be over, until she comes out of the fog, which may be a long long time. You sound like a wonderful person and I think showing some positives to him while remaining firm in your changes and your boundaries seems like a reasonable path to take. We can do this, just stay strong, and keep positive, especially around your H. But remember, you are number 1 in your world right now. Take care of yourself.
Me 31 Her 30 M 5.5 T 11 0 Kids Bomb drop: 4/13, EA+PA: 12/13 Separated: 12/13, 3rd chance of counseling:7/14
