Thanks Sandi2, I really appreciate your guidance. (I don't trust my brain to steer when my heart is involved).

Curious, what is the reasoning.

My reasons that I come up with

1. She has me under lock and key
2. I get locked into the "friend" zone
3. My boundaries are being violated
4. I have not space to retreat to if I feel like I am slipping
5. I have to see her every day, hard to detach
6. I am sleeping literally in the bed that she slept in for months when she left me (and possibly the OM)

Anything i'm missing?

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015