I just got an email from our health insurance company saying that the password to log onto our online access portal was changed.
My guess is that GUBU, in his infinite wisdom, has decided he needs to prevent me from seeing what he might be up to medically/psychologically.
WHY???? Why does he do this? Why does he HIDE things from me all the time?
Why does he keep lying by omission?
Don't I have some little right to know if he's ill, if he's getting treatment for the elephant in the living room... I am really so much the enemy?
Doesn't he think it's relevant?
Why so much secrecy?
No need to answer, I know, I know. It just stinks. ------------------------
I think it's all the lying and hiding that gets me more than anything else.
I feel like having a cry now... I just don't understand sometimes.
I try not to let it get to me but...
He's probably re-routing the insurance info to work or his friend's house to ACTIVELY HIDE whatever it is FROM ME.
I'm his WIFE.
I really feel like puking again. ------------------------
And he's clearly still REALLY pissed about me simply saying that Tuesday is "my open mic night".
He hasn't said a peep since his last nasty text yesterday at five.
He would usually ask if the tree guys were here working... but--crickets.
It's funny because I didn't ask him to explain his absence, just said that I had plans, and he got all belligerent about my response.
Hey, how am I supposed to know that he's not out chasing young employees and embarrassing himself further and THAT's the reason he's "not going to be there". After all, without giving a reason, isn't that what he's implying?
That HE can go and HAVE FUN TOO!!!
"Nanna-nanna boo boo, stick your head in you-know-what!!!"
Anyhow, I'm not going to "cover" for him so he can skip out in an effort to troll for OW, while dumping the work on me.
No doubt this is part of what is p*ssing him off. ---------------------
Vets, I could really use some advice about how to establish this boundary without tipping my hand, creating more tension, or coming off as suspicious and demanding.
I will gladly cover for work stuff, of course I will!
But I won't be taken for granted and dumped on so he can go on "dates", lying to other women about his readiness for a "serious relationship."
That's more than I can take.
But I want to be cooperative, supportive, nonjudgmental....
If I say it's gotta be "work" then he'll just lie to me anyway.
I guess what I "want" is for him to give me a REASON why he won't be here.
Just saying "I won't be there" isn't good enough.
But he knows I'm here--it's not like I can just walk out on all these animals and leave them to fend for themselves. Not in good conscience.
And he knows that.
I am SO SICK OF THIS GAME-PLAYING with him.
He tries to get my goat (!!!), push my buttons, lie and hide and sneak around....
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Oh, and BTW, the other thing that popped up on Linkedin the other day was a woman's name who we'd had a big fight about months ago.
He had a pink piece of paper hidden in his truck with her name, email, phone number, and "create password"... the handwriting looked like a a very young woman. I was thinking it was some online sex thing... from someone he met.
He was very snarky when I confronted him, sneering at me, saying: "I have NO IDEA who that is..." Smirk, smirk.
Well, she popped up with a picture. Turns out she's the matronly gal who runs their security service for when the alarm goes off.
And he WANTED me to think it was some "Babe", that he had so many he couldn't remember or something.
Just lies. Secrets and lies.
I am so over it.
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
