Hmmmmm... She's TOLD me she wants to be heard and validated by me. And EVERYONE wants to shine. These are universal things, no?

She said in her birthday message that she hopes I come to understand how much this has hurt her. Does it not make sense to honor that and validate it?

I'm not getting what I'm missing here. I'm a little dense -- as you all know.

Me: 39 - W: 35
Together: 2 years, no kids
My Affair: 1.5 years
Affair ended: 4/9/14
Affair revealed: 5/19/14
Last Contact: 8/2/14