afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

Thanks for responding Starsky,

When I first moved back, I told her that she was free to leave and I wouldn't stop her. She kept saying I was forcing her out by moving back. I empathized with her and said I wasn't I was moving back to get on with my life.

So since that time I have been expecting her move out and she hasn't, Back in June when she said I make her life a living hell and just me being here makes it unbearable. I said "you are free to leave at any point."

She said she couldn't because I hadn't told her what she could take. I said " take it all since I am making your life hell and just go."

Right after the support hearing when I was "dead" to her. I asked when she was leaving because I wanted to get a Puppy. She didn't respond because I didn't exist at that point.

A week later She brought up a R discussion and tried to get me into an argument. I resisted fairly well but backslide a little.

During this conversation she asked when I was getting my Puppy. I said "When you move out. It wouldn't be fair to you to work around a Puppy to get things out of here.

She responded by saying maybe she wasn't leaving and I said but isn't that why you took me to court was so you had money to Move?

She danced around the subject and started to talk about How I am going to church and that is great for me that I am getting my life straight because GOD know I wouldn't do it for her.

I simply said Of Course I would and tried several years ago but we didn't return to church together so I decided to return for myself and I quite enjoy it actually.

She then gets mad and starts on another subject.

I think part of my problem is I want to over validate when I get the chance because we don't speak much.

And also because we don't speak much it has been hard to set boundaries and when I tried as I told Sandi2, I think I failed miserably.


I appreciate that you took the time to respond and that you will look over my thread a little more when you get the chance.