I hear you Joe, I am not a gift person myself. I don't really like getting them or giving them. But I do like giving and getting little gifts, like a cookie or a flower or just something very inexpensive and small.
I'm not really sure about this gift love language thing but could you also give things that are useful like bring her a sandwich for lunch? That way you are not spending money on "useless" junk but more something that will make her happy and be useful at the same time?
Thanks for your comment on the caveman theory and the trophy idea. Interesting, I did not think of it that way at all. I just don't get that comment "you are hard to replace"... then why try? I'm still right here! Sometimes it sounds like I left him!
Hope you're having a good day! Hugs, LisaB
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.