I had an affair... and I want my Fiancee back

[DBinSF]

Yes, I remember it's a marathon. I also know I don't have YEARS to work this out. I'm just so used to messing things up that I get a little paranoid when I do ANYTHING. Well, anything related to this woman. I'm having vivid dreams about her, and I'm paranoid about her "timeline" to get married and have kids. I know this is "Selfish DBinSF" talking, but it's hard to deny what I'm feeling.

I just want to make sure I am hearing her and validating her in every interaction we have. I want her to smile and say, "Wow, it feels good to be validated and heard at last."

I know you all know what I mean. I'd love to see her shine again.