KGirl - post-move

[KGirl]

I'll keep thinking about it. I don't have a ton of clear answers right now about some things - like the whole not changing accounts to pay bills like he said he would. There's a second one today that I found that he hasn't transferred. I'm finding it hard to balance making sure my needs are met in terms of things not being paid for with money that's part mine (I am not OK with paying towards bills that are supposed to be his now) and not "nagging" since that was one of the things he said he was unhappy with. It's hard to figure out how to phrase things so that he won't take them as nagging. Today he sent me a text about something unrelated so I responded with "Great! thanks for letting me know. BTW, the cell phone bill is still coming out of the joint account. If you'd rather just repay the account from your own each month, that would be fine with me." - he said he hasn't been able to do some things since his computer isn't working, but I know he can transfer money easily on his phone. Whereas in the past I probably would have just said "Why didn't you change the cell phone bill yet?" And I still am thinking in my head "You said you could be responsible for things and didn't need me reminding you all the time.. but yet here we are two bill cycles later and you still haven't changed it?" Short of logging in and changing it myself to his own account (which feels innapropriate) I'm not how else to get my needs met on this one without potentially coming across as angry to him. But I'll keep thinking.