Thanks for checking in Lisa, I think you've answered that question in your post. He's already said that you're hard to replace. Keep taking care of yourself, but it I think the trophy thing will take care of itself.

Thanks for the thoughts on the gifts, many of these are more my financial speed. I know that I'll drive the kids out to her work to bring her a thing or two in the next couple of weeks before school starts. I've got my work cut out for me. A gift a day for a non-gift person is a huge challenge.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.