When he reaches out and wants to do something, there's the opportunity for quality time. Make it count. I don't mean go over the top or anything. Just be fun and engaging in conversation. Re-read the section on the dialects of quality time and think about how you can speak those subtly. Then make sure you leave him wanting more. Also, try to not do anything that would make the time not-quality...no blow-ups!
Same w/ physical touch. Nothing obvious. Just brush against him "accidentally," touch his shoulder briefly, etc. Again, nothing too much and nothing obvious, but just enough that it leaves him wanting more.
And try to avoid R talk.
Oh yeah, be there when he gets his stuff. Don't initiate conversation, but if he talks, be fun, energetic and happy. Just like I said above...here's your first chance. Someone once said, maybe MWD, treat the WAS as a friendly neighbor. So do that, and while you help him get his stuff to the car, subtly speak his love languages. He'll notice, so don't ask or say anything about it.
Last edited by Joe1981; 08/04/1402:32 PM.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
