You're not stupid, you're hurting.

You just spent or are spending a very difficult time with your mother. Don't discount the impact she has on you and this conversation with your H.

Have a good cry. ((( )))

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss