Big backslide. S8 sent H a text today saying "I don't like to talk" so H sent me a text asking what was up. I sent him one that said:
They were disappointed not to hear from you last night. I didn't realize d wasn't connected to the wifi till this morning. He misses you but talking on the phone isn't enough for him. I think that's him being defensive. He's in a terrible mood today and not doing a good job of being around people.
He apologized and said he got sidetracked and what should he do for S8. I sent this:
I don't think it's my place to chase your relationship with them down. When you had them I asked in advance when it would be convenient for me to call so I would be sure to get time with them. If you want to connect with Duncan then you should communicate with him. Don't want to run his relationship with you into the ground as I did for myself.
He said "don't be like that..." And I said I can't talk to you, I'm too frustrated. He asked why and I said
I'm hurt because I don't understand why we're apart and sometimes it hits me really hard. I'm angry that you haven't taken a single weeknight with the kids since you've been gone. I'm frustrated that you spend that little time connecting with them but then you act like I'm a micromanager. I feel like you've put me in an impossible situation and all I wanted was to have the sort of relationship we had before you did the MBA.
He said we'll go to lunch or dinner when he gets back to discuss.
I'm stupid but I just got hit in the heart with a brick wall of hurt and frustration. I really DON'T understand why we're apart and I'm sick of the hurt and uncertainty. And I'm sick of putting on the strong face.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
