Wife wants marriage with OM, is there any hope?

[mindsin]

I'd like to share an e-mail exchange between my WAW and me a few days ago. I'd like to get some of your thoughts/interpretations on this. Reading it back, I feel that I should never have sent the e-mail in the first place.

Me
I am feeling very sad today. In these past weeks, most of my sadness was in the fact that I'm losing my wife -- the fact that all the dreams and goals that I had in my life revolved around you.

Today, more intensely than ever, I feel true remorse for where we are. Specifically, I am remorseful of the person I turned you into. I have broken you down emotionally for years, and I am so sorry. I don't know how many times I can say sorry because I know they are only words. I wish I could fix things and take away your pain. I wish I could get you back to that happy girl that used to hold my hand and snuggle in my arms on a chilly evening. I wish you could someday find it in your heart to forgive me for everything that I have done -- not just the infidelity. I don't know what the answer is. And in the meantime, I'm trying to search my own soul to find out who I am as a person, what I want out of life, and what makes me ultimately happy.

This is an emotional roller coaster that I'm going through. I just hope I find enough strength to keep me sane, and I'm confident that there is indeed a light at the end of this tunnel. I just don't know what it looks like yet.

Her response
I know this is a tough time for you, for me as well whether you like to believe it. I am trying very hard to stay together as friends and do the best I can to help you and us through this very emotional time period. I keep going back to the fact we did spend 19yrs together, and for the most of that time I cared deeply for you, and I would hope our last days together under the same roof can be amicable.

You are right, it took more than just the infidelity to break me down. Some day you will truly understand what I've been through.

I hope a year from now we can be in a better place with each other, and moving forward with our lives.

I will always be your friend, as long as we treat each other respectfully.