Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 4

[MrBond]

Listen very carefully because you don't seem to want to listen to anyone but the sound of your own voice.

"Ok so i spoke to her about it again."

Why can't you just let it go? You have absolutely NO patience. You should have just let things grow naturally rather than push and force her to "see" things the way YOU want.

" And she says its never going to work"

She's right because you won't change.

"how can i have a relationship with her.. where i let go and forgive her of the betrayal and let her do what she wants."

Really? There was NO BETRAYAL. You can't seem to get that through your head. She couldn't talk to you about your relationship so she turned to get advice from another guy. She wasn't going out with him. There's nothing for you to forgive. You just keep coming off like an @$$hole because you don't seem to get it.

"We dont have mutual respect"

You don't respect her so why should she respect you? You called her a "slut" and condemned her guy friend. You don't respect her at all. It's not because of religion or upbringing, or whatever. You CHOOSE TO BE AN EGOTISTICAL, SEXIST @$$HOLE. Period.

"We dont have communication its become so awkward every since the d talk in march"

That's from you.

"we have different goals in life"

You EXPECT her to do what you want to do. That's not what a M is all about. You have two different people who are going to have their own opinions. You have to learn to compromise on them. You don't seem to want to and just want to do things YOUR WAY.

"We are from two complete different backgrounds
Different areas"

This has nothing to do with your situation. It doesn't matter how different your backgrounds are. What matters is your UNDERSTANDING of each other.

"we are growing up differently.. she feels that shes changed as a person and does not want any of this anymore"

She has changed. And for the better. You refuse to. You said you read DB which teaches that change in yourself is the number one thing you need to do. Despite you claiming over and over again that you've changed, NO ONE has seen that from you.

"She says she has different ambitions in life and hopes to achieve them. She says that she cant do em with me."

And she's right because you don't want her to change. You called her slutty just because she wants to wear shorts. She knows you're going to demean her when she starts going after her own dreams. You condemn her rather than supporting her.

"She says that even if she and i got over her speaking to the guy and me neglecting her. What do we fall back on.. theres no understanding.. we are two very different people."

Because you don't want to change and grow up.

"She just wants to be happy and feels i restrict her."

She's right.

"She doesnt know who she is.. shes done everything for me and feels that she lost herself in the process and wants to go out and find what she likes and what she dont.. see whats out there.. its a big world and she jus wants to travel and help people."

That's VERY commendable of her and mature.

"i blame no one but myself. To be honest i guess all the lifelines have been used. And im sure even if there any ways to make it work none of you guys would be willing to help me right?"

Why should we? You don't want to change or listen. There are definitely ways to save it, but you don't seem to want to do any of them because you're a little boy who wants to do what he wants to do and not listen to anyone else. This "woe is me" attitude of yours is pathetic.

"I shouldve listen.. we only had a break for 3 days.. i guess i shouldn't have moved back in so fast and remained the same. I wish someone could help me.. please?"

Again, why should we? You haven't deserved it. I and others told you NOT to move back in and that you needed to grow up and change first. But you didn't listen and instead insulted all of our wives and females who wear shorts by saying they are all slutty. Why should we help someone like that?

"she has sacrificed a lot for me through the time we been together."

And you haven't.

"how i didnt be a boyfriend or anything it was all about the sex to me.. but thats not true.. why would i marry her?"

Because she gave you sex when you wanted it and didn't have to give her anything back in return. Now that she's grown and found out that you've used her, she wants out.

So why are you here? We can tell you that you can definitely save your M, but it will require work from you which you don't want to do. So why are you here?