"Was never in love" part deux

[LisaB]

Hi Mat,
Sorry to hear about your bad meeting. I had one too this weekend so I can really feel your pain.

Hold off on that email. Give it a little time, you can always say that stuff a bit later if you need to. For now, just focus on making yourself feel better, detaching a bit. I say this as advice I am giving myself at the moment.

It sounds to me like your W wants you to open up and be more emotional with her, but good emotions. It's confusing because she is pushing you away at the same time. So telling her how much you love her is clingy. That is a difficult place.

Maybe next time you meet or speak you can somehow express to her how much you cared for her and be a bit emotional without talking about the current situation? Something like "I'm regretful that in the past I did not express to you ..." instead of "I love you soooo much!" But maybe I am off the mark. Just a thought.

Do you know what this OM is giving her that she didn't get from you? Is he very emotional and open with his feelings?

Good luck and let's hope we can both erase the pain of this last crappy meeting and get to a better place soon.
Hugs, LisaB