25yearsmlc, I like your caveman theory. Very true and one of the reasons my H ran off. He wanted a nicer "trophy". I wonder if I can improve myself to become a better trophy or if he simply needs a new one. I already look 10x hotter and am working to improve my professional confidence too. But is it possible to change enough to seem like a trophy again when they've lost admiration for you? Any thoughts?
Joe1981, you can do it! And the gifts don't have to cost a lot or be enormous, just little things. Maybe you can combine the acts of service with a gift, like some of the things 25 suggested.
Gift getting isn't really my thing but I know I am just as happy if my H brings me a surprise cup of coffee from the shop or a single flower as I would be if he purchased a gift. It's the thought that counts as they say. Of course when it comes to birthdays etc I would prefer a thoughtful and somewhat expensive gift! Just try to make the daily gifts sweet and thoughtful, don't worry about the prices. It could even be a goofy plastic ring from the toy dispenser at the grocery. Whatever! And yeah you can have your kids do the giving to make it sweet and not too over the top.
Good luck! I'll be watching your situation! Thanks for checking in with me also. Hugs, Lisa
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
Just try to make the daily gifts sweet and thoughtful, don't worry about the prices. It could even be a goofy plastic ring from the toy dispenser at the grocery. Whatever! And yeah you can have your kids do the giving to make it sweet and not too over the top.