FINALLY SURFACING

[Fartiltre]

I DID IT
Saturday I completed my triathlon in 1.08.35 and thereby below the 1.10 I had as a goal.
I still feel so good about this and now I want to do better.

The weekend has been full of GAL.
The run Saturday, barbecue at friends in the afternoon, concert with other friends Saturday night and then some bars until late. Chilled all Sunday with a friend.
Splendid weekend.

At the barbecue (Friend M’ed to Ws friend) my friends wife asked me if I would take care of their plants and Ginny pig while they are away for some days. Friends W has gotten so much nicer towards me during the past month or so.
Little things like this makes me feel good!

W called Sunday morning. She talked about their vacation, what they had been doing and not doing. Good talk and then D5 came to the phone. So nice to talk to her!
Afterwards W and I tried to plan this week and we ended up in an argument. W had put in her calendar that Ds would be with me this week – I didn’t and I have no memory of making this arrangement. (We agreed on getting back to this matter IMO) When I told W this she got mad “It is in my calendar”, “Why would it be in my calendar if we didn’t agree on it” and so on. I tried very calmly to explain her that I couldn’t explain that and then she set totally off. “It is always about you being right”, “I have the Ds 50% of vacation and so do you”, “I have scheduled business meetings” and so on. I had no chance of getting through, she kept interrupting and was just plain angry – so I ended the call and told her I would get back to her later.
I did in the evening and we settled things with the Ds. I also told her that we need to have a talk soon, that I do not understand why she gets so angry with me and that I mean her no bad or harm, that our planning is not good enough and that talks like the one previously ruins good time. All said very calmly and she agreed to this.

I have been thinking a lot about her sayings but can’t seem to find my way through this. She is right about (old) me wanting to be right but this seems to come from somewhere else. She gets so angry and it makes it almost impossible to have a normal convo when she gets like this.
Sometimes I think that she gets this way because of my changes. I mindread that she feels anger towards me because I didn’t do this before, suddenly I can do it all, only seeing me happy and so on.

I will pick up the Ds later today and am really looking forward to seeing them


LTH,
As always thank you for your advice and support!
I fully agree with you and Sandi!

W is now back from vacation and I will have the talk with her as soon as possible. Hopefully that will bring me a little clarification.
I will follow your advice about trying to open up a little and keeping my schedule free on the “right” days so I can actually accept an invite.

I hope you are doing good in all regards and that your R, work, studies and busy life in general brings you good times.
Take care